tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post2275023245434119801..comments2023-05-22T05:23:33.917-07:00Comments on Love in the Time of Chronic Illness: helping partners cope with illness: Seven Medical Myths & Seven Myths About Couples & IllnessBarbara Kivowitzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04069286366650175153noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-81100949720459398042008-02-09T10:59:00.000-08:002008-02-09T10:59:00.000-08:00Brooklynn - sorry to hear about your chronic pain....Brooklynn - sorry to hear about your chronic pain. I hope you find a combination of treatments that helps. And I couldn't agree with you more that the caretaker needs to stay connected to the world beyond the partner's illness. Escapes are essential.<BR/><BR/>Ohiluvnut -- I sympathize with your situation. There are so many painful, conflicting elements in the "couple and illness" experience. Resentment, burn-out, obligations, guilt, attachment, and on and on. Having supports and "escapes" for yourself, perhaps even a trusted counselor, may be helpful. There is no right way to move through this situation. We just stumble along with loads too heavy to carry. I wish you strength and clarity as you find your path.Barbara Kivowitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04069286366650175153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-65336388698497210102008-02-09T09:36:00.000-08:002008-02-09T09:36:00.000-08:00"in sickness and in health"... was in the process ..."in sickness and in health"... was in the process of initiating divorce because of an affair I was having with new love when wife is dx with terminal (2 yrs +/-) brain cancer...moral dilemma!! Although we distrust each other, have no passion, and each knows the other would be gone if not for the disease, we are together, out of obiligation and, because we, she needs me. More than likely we are making each other sicker...A year has passed and I find myself just waiting for some relief...but none is in immediate sight but her cognitive skills are diminishing due to full brain radiation ever so subtly and it will continue to do so until she will need constant caretaking...not sure I am up to the job...feeling crappy for even thinking this way...It must be time to go, right? Can this all go away so we can just start again as friends...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-42226832986783273152008-01-06T20:37:00.000-08:002008-01-06T20:37:00.000-08:00Having stuck by my partner's side in illness, I ha...Having stuck by my partner's side in illness, I have to say the biggest myth was love. Yes, I love him very much and that certainly helps but the biggest thing that kept me from going crazy was having my own escape that was just for me. The irony is now he is taking care of me through my chronic pain.Princessa Con Problemashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06716847560366820200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-28046649952193120142008-01-06T15:03:00.000-08:002008-01-06T15:03:00.000-08:00So true. The medical myths are the really silly o...So true. The medical myths are the really silly ones, though. You can almost see why people would believe the relational stuff.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.com