tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post2352121870999704047..comments2023-05-22T05:23:33.917-07:00Comments on Love in the Time of Chronic Illness: helping partners cope with illness: What Do You Say to Yourself When You Have a Relapse?Barbara Kivowitzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04069286366650175153noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-90187305486192175672009-06-24T19:38:08.587-07:002009-06-24T19:38:08.587-07:00It's not usually what I say when I relapse, it...It's not usually what I say when I relapse, it's what I say when I have a remission. I immediately start chiding myself for not doing more, for being so lazy--I forget right away what the intensity of the pain is like and accuse myself of imagining it all. Until it hits me whammo again, and I think, "oh." Over and over, this cycle, though less since I live in more pain more continuously than not. Sometimes, yes, the good days make me think scooter schmooter, just get walking and I do what I can, too much and then soon after I'll be limited to the couch full time, only a shower every few days and restroom trips.<br /><br />If I have a really bad pain episode I feel panicky because I don't know how long it's going to last and I don't like staying at very high pain because it's absolute misery and I can't focus on anything else.FridaWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03321658097813377806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-68385206463373926642009-06-22T05:49:10.076-07:002009-06-22T05:49:10.076-07:00Great post! I usually just try to internalize the ...Great post! I usually just try to internalize the knowledge that "this too shall pass" as it always does in its own good time. Might not be when I want it to, but eventually it will. I also think back to specific situations and events in the past where the pain has been either especially bad or has gone away. Then I realize that it does come and go and even when it's very bad, there's a light at the end of the tunnel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com