tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post5843616232762391735..comments2023-05-22T05:23:33.917-07:00Comments on Love in the Time of Chronic Illness: helping partners cope with illness: Being SelfishBarbara Kivowitzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04069286366650175153noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-48008597929787038282011-05-17T23:52:06.526-07:002011-05-17T23:52:06.526-07:00"I think I'll go find Richard and tell hi..."I think I'll go find Richard and tell him that even though I don't really care about his foot condition, I do care about him."<br /><br />Got it. You really cared for him, and though your attitude seemed to be selfish, you are just driven with pure instinct when you want to go away from him. Anyway, speaking of being selfish, I guess all people are manifesting it from time to time. Well, for one thing it is part of our human nature, eh. However, part also of our humanity is compassion, and it is always up to us to choose between selfishness and compassion. :)Peny@scrubs salehttp://www.pulseuniform.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-46773910334136917472011-05-07T11:55:47.759-07:002011-05-07T11:55:47.759-07:00If you're the ailing caregiver, it's proba...If you're the ailing caregiver, it's probably in bad form to whine too much about your relatively minor suffering. If you're the chronically ill person, though, it's nice if you can give a little sympathy. It doesn't have to be elaborate. A warm sentence or two will do the trick.<br /><br />The chronically ill person's needs are always going to be greater. There's nothing anybody can do about that. But if the chronically ill person doesn't provide any support at all, you don't really have a relationship anymore.Bad Caregiverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07424826493743953291noreply@blogger.com