tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post7842238278288743240..comments2023-05-22T05:23:33.917-07:00Comments on Love in the Time of Chronic Illness: helping partners cope with illness: How Have Your Parents & In-Laws Reacted to Your Illness?Barbara Kivowitzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04069286366650175153noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-34876475902717416412009-06-09T13:57:48.913-07:002009-06-09T13:57:48.913-07:00Elizabeth, Surgeon, Ashley - thanks for sharing yo...Elizabeth, Surgeon, Ashley - thanks for sharing your experiences with parents and in-laws. I found it interesting that your stories were so different from each other. Sometimes our parents and in-laws react similarly to how they have treated us pre-illness; sometimes there are surprises - both good and bad.Barbara Kivowitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04069286366650175153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-84994308817550214522009-06-05T16:17:38.363-07:002009-06-05T16:17:38.363-07:00My husband and I are so blessed to have the suppor...My husband and I are so blessed to have the support of our families. When my husband had a really severe flare up and I couldn't leave him, his parents brought us groceries and my parents brought us several meals. They also help us with things around the house like yard work.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09629819260967072971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-33437334547444525222009-06-05T13:25:29.544-07:002009-06-05T13:25:29.544-07:00My in-laws are deceased so no experience there.
M...My in-laws are deceased so no experience there.<br /><br />My mom, unless she sees a cast or a surgical scar, believes most every other illness to :be in peoples minds". I don't even bother telling her anything any longer.<br /><br />My dad takes it to heart and worries, so I don't tell him either.Surgeon In My Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13179150077622941677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3364669902775880430.post-41635062419829851182009-06-05T02:01:30.390-07:002009-06-05T02:01:30.390-07:00My parents said "You have made your choice&qu...My parents said "You have made your choice" once I was declared terminal and have gone on vacations ever since, my brother said, "If you ever need anything" but I haven't seen him. My in-laws sent my partner a ticket to come home - due to supreme court law, that mean I can buy the ticket and she can go as my aide. I can't imagine joy from the good farm families knowing that 'that lesbian' (geez people it has only been 15 years!), is coming back to town. But my in-law mother who works home care volunteered to fly out for my last few weeks. My parents haven't invited me to thier apartment in a year, and asked on my birthday to give the cake for me, to my partner OUTSIDE the apartment building. They have made clear that care-giving as in even caring would 'affect thier life choices.' - whatever that means.<br /><br />Actually my mother openly states that she will not accept what three specialist and a specialist hospital have said: I'm dying. So they leave. They won't phone, they won't email, the occasionally send a letter (from 5 blocks away) because I can't answer them right away.Elizabeth McClunghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03627373214555333537noreply@blogger.com