Wednesday, December 2, 2009

What are the Little Things that Make a Big Difference?

The long haul of chronic illness can be back breaking work, for both partners. It certainly takes a physical toll. Couples know too well the exhaustion of dealing with symptoms and daily responsibilities, which don't wait for flare ups to quiet down. Illness certainly takes a psychological toll as roles shift and communication channels get clogged with emotional static.

Sometimes it doesn't take a big thing to break the tension and reduce the stress. Sometimes a very little thing can create a momentary oasis whose restfulness and beauty can then trickle back and lighten the ordinary for a while.

For me it's making sure we always say good night to each other, out loud and with intention. It's also laughing together, about anything, especially something silly or raunchy.

What about you? What are the little things that make a big difference?


Anonymous said...

Unexpected, tender words spoken by my husband as I care for him. Things like, I'm so grateful that I married you. Or thank you for being so kind and taking such good care of me. His loving words bring out in me kind and loving thoughts and actions. If only we could do this everyday....

Cranky said...

When my wife is getting too high maintenance (IMO), I sing the "HM (High Maintenance)" song. It's sung to the tune of "Hi ho, hi ho, it's off to work we go." that defuses the situation and lets her know she's getting to be too much without it having to come out via sharp words.