Monday, February 4, 2008

Article On How To Talk About Serious Illness

From a very clear, interesting article, Boomer Couples: Deepening Your Conversations About Illness

"Dialoging with your partner in the midst of a health crisis often reflects rather typical differences between men and women - particularly in what they want from each other. Whereas a woman may need to be heard and understood, a man may be intent on finding a solution to the problem.

The result is that, even though your partner wants to be supportive when you are sick, you may be surprised to find that it is difficult for him to talk with you about your deepest thoughts and worries. This can lead to conversations that are not authentic and that make you feel your emotions are being discounted."

The article goes on to list seven types of struggles couples can get into.


Deb said...

Another great find.

I just emailed your blog link to a friend who could really use your writings as she moves through a difficult time.

therapydoc said...

It's not easy. But NOT talking about it is harder sometimes, right?

Barbara Kivowitz said...

Thank you Deb!

Therapydoc - absolutely right. Not talking doesn't make it go away; it just makes the issues come out in more covert ways that usually wind up causing more damage

Terry at Counting Sheep said...

Wow, those two paragraphs described my relationship to a tee! Scary! My husband and I have had more than one tete-a-tete about this very subject!

Thanks for this info - fascinating. I thought it was just our own personal dynamics.