A reader recently posted this as a comment to my article on What Do You Do When Illness Makes Sex Impossible. I am reposting it here because I think his situation is a common one, that often stays hidden because it is fraught with emotions and complications. I'm also posting my response as a comment. I encourage you to share your stories and approaches to the challenge of sex and illness.
I have reached a point where I am considering looking for a lover. It's not that I don't love my wife but I still have a need for intimacy .
Do you have any advice or suggestions?